Exploding Egg

A Little Taoist Wisdom Before The Move

As my big life-altering move from Albuquerque to Portland rapidly approaches, I’m finally starting to lose my sustaining sense of disbelief and grab hold of the reality of change.

Practically, adjusting to that that means packing, getting the cats ready, filling out change of address forms and all that stuff. Emotionally, it means finding a way to steel myself so I can leave my old life and leap into the new one.

This move is going to be a really good thing for me, but I’ve never been one that adjusts easily to change. So I’m looking for ways to mellow myself out — and the best way for me is usually leafing through books on Taoism.

So tonight, as I ponder my Friday road trip to Portland, I flipped to a passage called “Road” in Everyday Tao by Deng Ming-Dao. I think it’s pretty appropriate, so I thought I’d pass it along:

“Everything we do in life forms a road. Our life span, our aging, our career, our endeavors, our relationships — all of these form a sequence that becomes the road we walk.

When we walk along a road, we should not regret another road not taken. Those who are mature accept this. We cannot travel on one path while walking another. If we go to one destination, then it is inevitable that we will miss others.

It is tempting to linger upon regrets and suppositions, especially when times are unhappy. Maybe we could have been more famous or richer. Maybe we could have done more as we grew older. But it is far better to remember that we make our own road one day at a time. If we have been fully involved with our own lives and have been making our own decisions, there is no reason for regret.

As we grow older, it becomes critical to fulfill what we find important. The more we understand our goals, the more we can properly gauge how close we are to them. That gives us a very powerful understanding.

The road each of us walks is our own personal Tao. All the principles we use in following universal Tao are also applicable to our personal one. Just as there is only one great Tao, so too is there only one Tao for us — our Tao. To be true to that, to be sure in that, is never to be separated from the essence of wisdom.”



April 17, 2010 - Posted by | Musings


  1. Good stuff, Sue!

    Comment by Kathy V in NM | April 18, 2010 | Reply

  2. So true! Thanks for the reminder…I’m at a point in life when I needed to remember this too…good luck with your move!

    Comment by mscruton | April 18, 2010 | Reply

  3. Thanks Marie and Kathy 🙂

    Comment by SueVo | April 18, 2010 | Reply

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